Care to comment? You go to an outdoor wedding/reception (long distance away from house/toilet facilities) on?
Question by Pancake: Care to comment? You go to an outdoor wedding/reception (long distance away from house/toilet facilities) on?
grass. Wedding march on record. During wedding/reception you sit on folding chairs. Only one table for cake, coffee and accessories. No other tables for the guests. You are given a small 2 in. piece of cake and one small cup of coffee – no other food! And no seconds on cake or coffee.
Groom embarrassed. Reason bride gives: it was the servants’ day off! Bride and family made all plans because they said his career was more important. Groom was interning at hospital – he was a pediatrician.
Whole event took less than 3 hrs. Chairs were picked up, cake immediately taken away and table removed.
How many guests: About 200.
Groom had absolutely no idea what to expect. Whenever he asked, he was told “not to worry – everything was well taken care of.”
Bride also had groom’s whole life planned WITHOUT him knowing. Her RICH daddy had an office all ready for the groom to occupy instead of finishing his internship at hospital. After they married, she let hubby know that she refused to have children, expected him to socialize more with HER friends, expected him to be available whenever so they could attend the ballet or other social events. When an emergency came up, she told the caller to get another doctor because her hubby wasn’t available for emergencies. A doctor, especially a children’s doctor, has to be available 24/7. They were divorced less than 2 yrs. later. He found a nurse who became a great wife and mother.
Bride also had groom’s whole life planned WITHOUT him knowing. Her RICH daddy had an office all ready for the groom to occupy instead of finishing his internship at hospital. After they married, she let hubby know that she refused to have children, expected him to socialize more with HER friends, expected him to be available whenever so they could attend the ballet or other social events. When an emergency came up, she told the caller to get another doctor because her hubby wasn’t available for emergencies. A doctor, especially a children’s doctor, has to be available 24/7. They were divorced less than 2 yrs. later. He found a nurse who became a great wife and mother.
Best answer:
Answer by candpotato
What’s your question?
A wedding is for celebrating a marriage of two people, not for snubbing them for getting a small piece of cake.
What do you think? Answer below!
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August 27th, 2010 at 8:32 pm
WOW ~ is all I can say. And a future Dr at that. I think I must agree with you on this one. Even though they blew every rule of etiquette they did it their way. I do so feel sorry for the groom and wonder how rocky of a marriage this will be for the couple. Perhaps there was an understanding between them how the wedding was to be, but this is the oddest one I’ve heard of yet.
If this is what they planned they NEVER should have invited 200 guests. This should have been an extremely private and intimate ceremony for only family and friends. Truly embarrassing.
Peace & Love
August 27th, 2010 at 8:47 pm
Having food at a wedding reception is, and has always been, optional. So the serving of only cake and coffee is perfectly acceptable. Tables should have been provided, however.
The bride and her family are the ones who traditionally plan for the wedding. Etiquette dictates that the groom’s family only plans and pay for the rehearsal dinner.
A three hour wedding and reception is not unusual.
The whole idea of an all day, huge meal, and alcohol for several hundred guests is becoming outdated. Why? Money, of course. Many smart and budget-minded couples are saving the big bucks for a new home or other high-ticket items they want for their new lives…even the honeymoon.
You were a guest. You are not to arrive with expectations of being served a big meal unless the invitation indicated that a meal was going to be served. As a well-behaved guest, I hope you smiled and perhaps shed a happy tear during the ceremony, appreciated the piece of cake and coffee you were offered, wished the bride and groom “Best Wishes” and went home glad for having been invited to witness a special event. And that’s all. Being disappointed at the lack of a meal and a long party is your shortcoming, and you should get over it.
The focus of the day was the wedding of two of your friends or family members. It was meant to be celebrated in the style of their choosing – no one else’s.
August 27th, 2010 at 9:31 pm
VERY tacky, personally, I would 86 this couple permanently, no one needs that BS in their lives and frankly, she sounds totally nuts.
August 27th, 2010 at 10:05 pm
WOW!!! That’s what I call a quickie. If they didnt care enough to make it memorable, then why should you care either, besides the inconvenience it may have caused you and the gift.
August 27th, 2010 at 10:32 pm
Well it’s not proper to criticize someone’s wedding. If the groom had wanted more information about the ceremony and reception, that is between him and his bride.
Are you suggesting the couple didn’t spend enough money entertaining and feeding their guests? I suppose if they had been like most couples they would have put themselves into debt on an overpriced carnival of a wedding they couldn’t afford as opposed to some less expensive affair where they merely got married and invited everyone they thought would have wanted to be there.
I wouldn’t suggest letting them know whether or not you found the event sub-par.
August 27th, 2010 at 10:35 pm
After all that, the groom went forward with the wedding? As a doctor, he is going to enter some high society social circles. If his bride can’t get the etiquette right for the big day, she’s going to fail all the way around.